Visa waiver laws??????????

Ok first of if there is people out there with smart *** remarks an comments dont bother posting i need help an its a serious issue, i have neterd the USA previously twice on the VWP, an left before the 90days, i came back an married my now wife who is a legal us citizen born an breed, we have a baby together also born in usa. we got married when my 90days were still good, my waiver expired in november 2010. now i have read so much for, an so much against this, that there is so many loop holes that state we can file to adjust status, an so many that say no u cant visa waiver dont allow that, i have overstayed by nearly 6months, the 3year ban will be in affect in 2weeks, id liek to no what my options are an iff we can file without me leavin, we are seein a lawyer soon but from what ive read its both sides of the fence, can anyone provide proper legal proof to support the case either from the DHS website or such things as this, thanks guys, god bless